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BDSM tips for beginners: dominant vs submissive

BDSM tips for beginners: dominant vs submissive

BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. A sexual experience that’s all about dominance and submission, BDSM has become one of the services most requested by escort clients. And beyond the sex industry, increasingly more couples work elements of BDSM into their sex lives.

At its most basic, BDSM is a relationship between a “submissive” and “dominant” (you’ll also hear terms like “top” and “bottom”). In this power exchange, the submissive enjoys and agrees to be controlled (which entails things like bondage, discipline, pain, etc.) by the dominant, who gets off on controlling his or her partner. 

The safe word

The first question that comes to most people’s minds is: is it safe? Can you go too far and really hurt the other person? The experience –often called a scene, play, or session– is always under control. The fundamental principles for the exercise of BDSM require that it should be performed with the informed consent of all involved parties. Participants agree on a safe word that can be used (most often by the submissive or bottom) to immediately stop the action.

It can’t be something that you’d usually say in a sexual or BDSM scenario, like “stop”, “it hurts”, or “no more”. A safe word should be one that’s out of place in a scene, something like “umbrella”, “French fries” or “Area 51” – a safe word should make it easier for the dominant to hear that a boundary has been crossed and to stop what had been consensual behavior up to that point. 

The dominatrix

 Many men enjoy being dominated by a woman: think about that classic image of a dominatrix with a whip. Others like to be slapped, or stepped on by an escort in high heels or leather boots. And the dominatrix look is one that turns most men on: a femme fatale knows how to charm her lovers and drive them to passion.

Escorts are skilled at stepping into the role of dominatrix, who takes the dominant role in BDSM activities: she does what she wants, when she wants, and can bring a man to his knees, pleading for mercy.

Fetish

For many people, a BDSM relationship can be a fetish, rather than just a sexual fantasy (or even both). Which means that actual intercourse is often secondary when it comes to a BDSM session. The submissive seeks pain, humiliation, or any of the many variations of this type of activity, getting erotic enjoyment simply from being dominated and not from the act of sex.

When it comes to dominant and submissive relationships between escorts and clients, much depends on the type of service the client is looking for; open communication is key when it comes to setting up a BDSM scene.

So what are you waiting for? The chance to explore the pleasures of BDSM with an escort is just a call away.

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